I realize that no matter how hard I work, it is about me being happy with what I have done. No matter how many times we try to work harder, better, or reach our goals, there will be pitfalls and hurtles that stand in our way. After receiving a run of rejections from literary presses, dealing with an individual who doesn’t give a pat on the back due to frustration and economic concern, and generally feeling the Spring blah, I have decided to just let all of the stress of it dissolve. In order to do this, I need to cut myself some slack. Recognize that I have worked long and hard to get to a point in my life where I can support a family, dabble in my writing, run a few open mics, and teach as time allows. Is this my dream? No, but it is something to be proud of!
I generally try and keep my blog up-beat, and this may sound depressing, but here is the twist. We all need to hear that we have done well. So many wonderful writers, artists, and teachers I know never really hear, “You are wonderful!” Let’s face it, as professions go, none of the above will ever make a ton of money and be able to live on their art. There are a very few exceptions. In reality, every one of us hopes and dreams of being one of those exceptions.
If we give up on that, does it make us failures? When does giving up on a dream become just facing reality, and not giving up? How many kind words have you received at your work this week? We are all focused on ourselves. Obviously, I am. I write this blog. I am not saying that some focus on the self isn’t necessary and healthy. What I am saying is, part of what I consider to be being a good person is working hard for those people in your life that you love, and finding a way to do things that you love. Sometimes these things don’t work well together. Life never goes the way you hope it will, and there are always more bills to pay, and people who will refuse to be kind. With that said, take a moment for yourself. Recognize the hard work you have put in, the small things you do daily for family and friends, and the spirit you have to never let go of the things you love. Now, from me to you, “You are amazing and unique, and love lives in you.” Spread the love, to sound a little cliche and hippie-child-like. Choose one person, tell them they are amazing, and unique. Do this every day. Mean it!